Had this first experience three weeks ago. Brad and I drove together and we pulled up to Cody’s new school. I got out in the drop off line and unbuckled him. A teacher ran out to meet us and took Cody’s hand and they walked in. It all happened so fast, he never shed a tear.
The teacher that was working the cross walk happened to be a very close friend and she immediately gave me a hug and said some comforting words and told me she would poke her head in his room in about 30 minutes to see if he is doing ok. I distracted myself into social media just to try to keep my mind off things so I would not cry. When we approached the signal light, I had texted our oldest son, Cameron to let him know that we were headed back and would pick him up to take him to school. He immediately asked,”How did he do?” I answered he did great and no had tears!” He sent back a (heart) him.
That is when the tears started to fall down my face. You see its a different type of sadness with Cody. When he does not speak, your mind begins to wonder how strangers will be able to pick up on his needs and wonder when he is frightened by new friends, new environment, strange sounds and bright florescent lighting, how will he tell his teachers how these may make him feel. Then you question, maybe this is exactly what he needs to push him to start speaking? You see Brad and I are not always that easy on him and over time we have learned to make him ask in his ways through sign, pictures, eye contact or taking your hand and leading you to what he needs but what makes its so touch for me is when he cant tell you his emotions and how he is feeling. And his tolerance for pain is so high, that makes me scared at times too!
10 minutes after the bell and his teacher sent me this.
20 minutes later, I get this from a dear friend.
Cody only attends 2 days a week right now. On his second day, I texted the teacher to let her know I was here to pick up and she asked if I could come in. She quickly checked me in to take me to the cafeteria to witness the progress already made with self feeding with the Occupational Therapy he is receiving. Where I was so excited about this progress I was also more excited to seeing him sit at a table of 10 friends surrounded by about 10 more tables of friends and he was loving it! She shared a great photo of this day too where eh attended his first assembly in the gym.
On his 3rd day he had already made the school twitter page showing off some of the signs he is learning with his teacher.
We are 3 weeks in, I LOVE HIS TEACHER, I LOVE HER PARA and all the hard work paid off with the countless hours spent with the school district in meetings. We seem to have a nice blend for Cody right now and something is clicking and we like what we are seeing. With the change in the schedule and the hard work this boy is putting in we have seen more days like this photo below while he is eating or commuting between therapies. I see why parents with children with Autism truly call them Super heroes. It’s because they are.