Not My Circus

The other day I was catching up with a friend and sharing what was currently on our plate and she said to me, ”You need to tell them your circus is full.” Your circus is a full act already and what you are juggling is already too much and those are not your monkeys.  I paused when she said that and looked at her, repeated, “your circus is full”  and said, “I like that!”  Sometimes people may attempt to make their problems yours.  They don’t mean too but they also just may need to have someone else to blame.  Being angry takes more energy and time than happiness.  One day you will look up and realize all what you have missed being angry.  Anger can also overpower the present. Cherish time together while in the moment.  The more anger you hold towards the past in your heart, the less capable you are of loving the present.

Not my Circus

I just wrote a post yesterday talking about Living in the Moment.  There is so much truth to this and so important for many reasons but most importantly if you can learn to let the anger go, the present is more vivid.

“Clarity doesn’t typically happen in your everyday comfortable or distractedly busy type of moments.  It’s faint and subtle and breathes from your body only when you’re ready to be honest with yourself.  When you’re ready to ask…and actually listen.”

Found this quote from Victoria Erickson and I was thinking about her words.  Once you can get to a place where you are honest with yourself, forgive others, let go of the anger,  CLARITY creates simplicity. 

Simplicity then offers the vivid moments, the moments you cherish. The ones you talk about years from now. Then those in your life and part of your everyday become more loving and forgiving.  Choose happiness.  Be selective about your Circus.  Don’t allow someone else’s monkey’s on your back.

Have a strong Ringleader by your side when your circus is this full. Don’t allow fireballs and only juggle what feels right and what carries love and no anger.  My circus is full and has no room for flea bags!

My Monkeys:

My Monkeys

Me and my Ringmaster! (Monkey see Monkey Do)




Published by mamalamaneustupa

Bio My name is Shelley Neustupa. I am a mother of two cool boys and a wife of 22 years to my high school sweetheart. My oldest son attends the University of Oklahoma. Boomer! My youngest is in 2nd grade and was diagnosed with Autism and Mixed Receptive Expressive Disorder at age 2. Since his diagnosis, I promised him I would advocate and educate as hard as he works each day in therapy. I began writing and have been able to touch many parents that may be new to this journey providing them with actual experiences (not candy coated), support and resources through my entries. Writing is my therapy and my hope one day that my nonverbal son will be able to take these diaries and speak about his own journey and how autism relates to his own experiences. Who knows he and his older brother may become National Speaker’s one day? Come along on our journey to better understand our lives through the eyes of a boy with autism, his Skilled Companion dog Jude, his big brother (and best friend) and mom and dad. My raw vulnerability captures the everyday moments of our journey and will bring even more awareness. A week does not go by where we do not learn something new about ourselves and I want to share these chapters with you. My Sons Undeniable Strengths… Extremely smart and figures out things quickly. Has a memory that allows him to remember more things than I could ever hope for. Persuasive by his personality and sheepish looks. Overabundance of stamina and strength. Loves the outdoors. Enjoys life and always has fun with an unforgettable smile. You can find us here: Writer: Autism Through His Eyes Facebook Instagram YouTube Pinterest Canine Companions for Independence News Interview Cody and Skilled Companion Jude - Our Story

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