ReBoot: NOT (Crl.Alt.Del.) BUT Centered. Gratitude. Balance.

Just returned home from my Leadership Conference with work and should be exhausted.  Instead, I woke this morning, cleared a few emails, made a second cup of coffee and could not wait to write to reflect my past 3 days.  Every year I look so much forward to reconnecting with my work family but won’t lie, I come home exhausted. With early morning and late evenings with all the activities, learning and reuniting with your work family, it can be tiring. But, why do I feel recharged this time? What was different?


For the first time in a long time, I think I refueled myself.  This conference not only fed me a ton of possibilities that I can implement for my work but also my mind, body and soul.  The speakers that we listened too really got the understanding of the importance of home – life – work balance. I found myself taking several photos of the presentations and jotted down notes on the Marriott note pad provided on the table.  I have often told my boss, my work time has always recharged me because home can be exhausting at times with juggling a very stressful schedule.  As most of you already know, I have a very beautiful loving family and would not change a thing but right now we are “all in” with Cody’s development.


The last 24 years of conferences, when I returned home, I quickly unpacked, slipped in my PJ’s (before dinner) and all I wanted was to crawl into my own bed.  Instead, last night I poured a glass of vino and stepped outdoors and watched the sunset while Cody and Cameron played basketball while I was waiting to to see my hubs to come home from the office.  I even found myself sharing my takeaways from the last 3 days to Cameron.  I reminded him to never lose focus on who you are and what impacts you can make on others. I told him about if you start your day with The 5 Minute journal I learned from Ryan Estis, it not only sets the tone for your day but also keeps positivity on the fore front by noting what you are most grateful for and why each day.

Think about it, how can you have road rage and be grateful at the same time? You can’t.  This simple habit, can literally change your response to the guy that cuts you off on the way to the office because he was texting.  Ryan Estis also shared, at the end of the day, ask yourself, “Who did I impact today and how will I be remembered by the people I worked with today?” Two very powerful questions that I now have posted on my computer screen to work towards personally and professionally each day.

So why do I feel this is important for me to start this new habit each day?  I believe it can be contagious to others.  I believe it can balance my every day.  We all have times when we deal with some really big shit ticket items and stress can even wake us at night.  You may be dealing with negativity and demands from other people, or your children may be experiencing a regression moment in their development and all of these things can completely drain you by the end of the day. Why? Energy healers call it aura, or the personal energy we all carry with us. When you’re weighed down by external or internal negativity, your personal energy suffers.

This can all change if you surround yourself and develop a new habit to starting each day with positive energy.  This first five minutes will change the way I speak and treat others.  See, I believe that giving to others is also a healer for me in my autism community. I chose to make our autism journey public in hopes to help others.  It took me a year to make this decision but happy I followed my heart.  I cannot express how humbled I was returning from this conference to learn how many people approached me about Cody’s journey. I had no idea that he had such a following on his Facebook page, and blog.

Lastly, remember that it is okay, and healthy, to relax. I tried yoga for the first time at this conference and it gave me and my mind the time to reflect some of the powerful messages I captured from all the guest speakers.  There is little to no reward for pushing your already fatigued body even further past its physical limits. Give yourself a break, so you can recharge and do this all again tomorrow.

Published by mamalamaneustupa

Bio My name is Shelley Neustupa. I am a mother of two cool boys and a wife of 22 years to my high school sweetheart. My oldest son attends the University of Oklahoma. Boomer! My youngest is in 2nd grade and was diagnosed with Autism and Mixed Receptive Expressive Disorder at age 2. Since his diagnosis, I promised him I would advocate and educate as hard as he works each day in therapy. I began writing and have been able to touch many parents that may be new to this journey providing them with actual experiences (not candy coated), support and resources through my entries. Writing is my therapy and my hope one day that my nonverbal son will be able to take these diaries and speak about his own journey and how autism relates to his own experiences. Who knows he and his older brother may become National Speaker’s one day? Come along on our journey to better understand our lives through the eyes of a boy with autism, his Skilled Companion dog Jude, his big brother (and best friend) and mom and dad. My raw vulnerability captures the everyday moments of our journey and will bring even more awareness. A week does not go by where we do not learn something new about ourselves and I want to share these chapters with you. My Sons Undeniable Strengths… Extremely smart and figures out things quickly. Has a memory that allows him to remember more things than I could ever hope for. Persuasive by his personality and sheepish looks. Overabundance of stamina and strength. Loves the outdoors. Enjoys life and always has fun with an unforgettable smile. You can find us here: Writer: Autism Through His Eyes Facebook Instagram YouTube Pinterest Canine Companions for Independence News Interview Cody and Skilled Companion Jude - Our Story

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