I remember the day vividly when Cameron came home from school to tell me about his A on a poem he wrote for his AP Language Arts class. I asked him to share it with me and immediately printed off to frame for our guest bath. You see, when I first read, it made me a sad and brought me to tears. 2014 brought quite a few changes for our family: AUTISM.
The 6 months before Cody’s diagnosis we started therapies based on the developmental delays we were seeing with him. We were scared. We were distracted. We were numb. Deep down in our soul, we knew what we were up against in our near future, but it was too difficult to accept or admit because we wanted to be wrong. During this time of worry in our lives, we lost sight for a short time on our 11-year-old paving and learning his way through his first year of middle school with new friends. Until the day he shared his poem. Where Cameron may have not realized, his poem was like an alarm going off in my head.
So, you see, 5 years later, I still hang this poem proudly as a reminder for myself and who else may be using our guest bath:
“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” Ferris Bueller’s Day Off
This quote expresses the most important lesson I learned that year – the importance of slowing down and being present. I don’t mean literally moving slower, I mean acknowledging and taking advantage of small moments in your everyday life to be present and reflective.
Intentionally take the time to reflect and process. This took me about 4 years to learn. Once we received Cody’s diagnosis, it was a stressful time in our lives, our brains became more equipped to think, worry and stress about the future instead of the past and present. Reflecting and processing your day is a simple mental workout to strengthen your brain and your well-being.
Today, I have learned to slow down and try my best to manage through my words, my advocating and my health and creating those memories.
How many summers to you have left with your children living at home?
Cody, not sure what our future and can’t answer this today.
Life is short, time is fast, no replay, no rewind, so enjoy every moment as it comes.