Be Blessings to Others

You’ve heard it a million times over. Be grateful. Count your blessings. Focus on the good.

Yet let’s face it, living from gratitude, particularly when the news bombards us with all the “not-so-good,” is easier said than done.  You can stop watching but it will find its way to sneak right into your world through your social or even break in to your music app while trying to shut the world out for just a 6 minutes in the shower to recharge.

Devastating wildfires. Mass shootings. Politics. Terror attacks. Hurricanes. More mass shootings. And then closer to home, our everyday pressures and problems: job stress, financial stress, marital stress, kids stress… there will always be something that isn’t as we’d like it to be. Things that can constantly give us anxiety, sadness, self-pity, despair, frustration or resentment.

This is all true.

What is also true is that there are many good people in the world who are brave and compassionate and committed to making the world a better one.

Our reality is shaped by the emotions we feel.  Our happiness is not determined by the conditions of our lives but by how we feel about them.

I wont lie, I cried a lot this week after reading Cameron’s scholarship essays on the value of true friends and what his role would be in a village to raise a child.  And wishing Cody did not struggle like he does at times but just as soon as I stopped he shares the most powerful bravery like no other kid could overcome.

What you focus on expands. For better or worse.

  • What good does it do to focus on what’s missing or completely out of your control?
  • What good does is do you to focus on all the potential dangers in the world?
  • What good does is do you to focus on what’s unfair and how you’ve been wronged?

What if you focus on all the good in your life? The people you love and what lays inside your control? What if you focus on the future that inspires you and all you can do to improve it?  What is you focus on the power of gratitude and your passion or drive for something?

Cody had for the first time ever a friend send him a picture that said he was thankful for play dates with him this week.  He also braved through a wellness doctor visit with little anxiety.  Cameron reflected on all the support his 3 best friends have provided him since he was 12 years of age.  He also shared his passions writing an essay why special needs kids have changed him to be a better person and perhaps receive a masters to become a Board Certified Behavior Analyst.  Brad received a positive report from the doctor after a CT scan.  He also received a deserving promotion because of his dedication, hard work and commitment.  I was reminded by moms, teachers and family this week that I have a village supporting Cody and our family needs.


As I share my Thanksgiving next week, I will focus on the good in my life. Not what I can’t control.

Remember, if you have a full plate this Thanksgiving, if you are surrounded with people you love around you, if you have fresh air to breath and freedom to express your truth, then you have much to be thankful for.  Millions have none of this.  Be blessings to others. Block all the noise you can’t control and focus on the good.

Just as Cameron once wrote, “One good deed, could change the world.”



Published by mamalamaneustupa

Bio My name is Shelley Neustupa. I am a mother of two cool boys and a wife of 22 years to my high school sweetheart. My oldest son attends the University of Oklahoma. Boomer! My youngest is in 2nd grade and was diagnosed with Autism and Mixed Receptive Expressive Disorder at age 2. Since his diagnosis, I promised him I would advocate and educate as hard as he works each day in therapy. I began writing and have been able to touch many parents that may be new to this journey providing them with actual experiences (not candy coated), support and resources through my entries. Writing is my therapy and my hope one day that my nonverbal son will be able to take these diaries and speak about his own journey and how autism relates to his own experiences. Who knows he and his older brother may become National Speaker’s one day? Come along on our journey to better understand our lives through the eyes of a boy with autism, his Skilled Companion dog Jude, his big brother (and best friend) and mom and dad. My raw vulnerability captures the everyday moments of our journey and will bring even more awareness. A week does not go by where we do not learn something new about ourselves and I want to share these chapters with you. My Sons Undeniable Strengths… Extremely smart and figures out things quickly. Has a memory that allows him to remember more things than I could ever hope for. Persuasive by his personality and sheepish looks. Overabundance of stamina and strength. Loves the outdoors. Enjoys life and always has fun with an unforgettable smile. You can find us here: Writer: Autism Through His Eyes Facebook Instagram YouTube Pinterest Canine Companions for Independence News Interview Cody and Skilled Companion Jude - Our Story

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