You’ve heard it a million times over. Be grateful. Count your blessings. Focus on the good.
Yet let’s face it, living from gratitude, particularly when the news bombards us with all the “not-so-good,” is easier said than done. You can stop watching but it will find its way to sneak right into your world through your social or even break in to your music app while trying to shut the world out for just a 6 minutes in the shower to recharge.
Devastating wildfires. Mass shootings. Politics. Terror attacks. Hurricanes. More mass shootings. And then closer to home, our everyday pressures and problems: job stress, financial stress, marital stress, kids stress… there will always be something that isn’t as we’d like it to be. Things that can constantly give us anxiety, sadness, self-pity, despair, frustration or resentment.
This is all true.
What is also true is that there are many good people in the world who are brave and compassionate and committed to making the world a better one.
Our reality is shaped by the emotions we feel. Our happiness is not determined by the conditions of our lives but by how we feel about them.
I wont lie, I cried a lot this week after reading Cameron’s scholarship essays on the value of true friends and what his role would be in a village to raise a child. And wishing Cody did not struggle like he does at times but just as soon as I stopped he shares the most powerful bravery like no other kid could overcome.
What you focus on expands. For better or worse.
- What good does it do to focus on what’s missing or completely out of your control?
- What good does is do you to focus on all the potential dangers in the world?
- What good does is do you to focus on what’s unfair and how you’ve been wronged?
What if you focus on all the good in your life? The people you love and what lays inside your control? What if you focus on the future that inspires you and all you can do to improve it? What is you focus on the power of gratitude and your passion or drive for something?
Cody had for the first time ever a friend send him a picture that said he was thankful for play dates with him this week. He also braved through a wellness doctor visit with little anxiety. Cameron reflected on all the support his 3 best friends have provided him since he was 12 years of age. He also shared his passions writing an essay why special needs kids have changed him to be a better person and perhaps receive a masters to become a Board Certified Behavior Analyst. Brad received a positive report from the doctor after a CT scan. He also received a deserving promotion because of his dedication, hard work and commitment. I was reminded by moms, teachers and family this week that I have a village supporting Cody and our family needs.
As I share my Thanksgiving next week, I will focus on the good in my life. Not what I can’t control.
Remember, if you have a full plate this Thanksgiving, if you are surrounded with people you love around you, if you have fresh air to breath and freedom to express your truth, then you have much to be thankful for. Millions have none of this. Be blessings to others. Block all the noise you can’t control and focus on the good.
Just as Cameron once wrote, “One good deed, could change the world.”